I down-voted your question for the following reasons:
Your question is unclear.
The details you included are contradictory.
When you were given feedback from the community, you made no effort
to improve or edit your question.
You have demonstrated an complete inability to answer a direct
question which makes me question your integrity/honesty.
In answer to your questions here:
Yes, this is the kind of question we want to avoid.
No, defending your character in the comments is not BAD, although you can expect the comment to eventually be deleted as comments are temporary in nature.
Yes, there are a number of things wrong with the question as I detailed above.
I feel like your question could potentially be cleaned up such that you could receive some helpful and insightful advice from the community here. If the question were worded properly, the answer might even be useful to other people. As things stand at present, neither of those outcomes is likely.