Recently, we've seen some rather forceful assertions that words that some words are controversial. I don't want to rehash the arguments, as the specifics are not the point.
While I understand that we do have to watch our words and tone, and that "Well, I just post this way", is not a defense against rude behavior, I also feel that this has been pushed to unreasonable extremes, such as people attempting to use being offended as some sort of currency to force a change in standards here. The logical conclusion is that eventually, nobody will be able to say anything of substance.
How would you propose that we maintain the "be nice" policy without allowing it to be misused?
Or, perhaps a better question is, "Where is that point between being deliberately rude, or careless with your tone, and catering to people who are hyper-sensitive?