Let's try to work with users before chasing them off

This question was deleted by the user in under an hour.


The comments were reprehensible, including the nagging for him to edit his post and bickering with the user.

By nagging, I mean repeated calls to do a simple edit that anyone could have done. I was actually in the middle of an edit when the post was deleted.

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    Perhaps you could include a screenshot of the post for those of us with less than 10K rep
    – Richard
    Nov 17 '18 at 12:20
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    @Richard too much for a screenshot, but here's a quote of the OP's comment halfway through
    – Kilisi Mod
    Nov 17 '18 at 15:52
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    "Wow I didn't expect to be bullied on my post 😂 It's like being at work . I never said I had a problem with being evaluated by people under me. I would appreciate the feedback . My problem is not being allowed to read the evaluations . That's like being evaluated by your boss but not being allowed to see how they scored you . Considering I have been being bullied and harassed by this person for months.. it seems kind of odd that I'm not allowed to read the actual reviews done on me . So he is allowed to alter the reviews to make me look bad ?"
    – Kilisi Mod
    Nov 17 '18 at 15:52
  • @Kilisi What about the other comments? Presenting only the victim's POV can't be judged fairly without knowing the other side of the story...
    – Andrew T.
    Nov 17 '18 at 17:23
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    @AndrewT. whats the point? If a new user feels bullied, then they feel bullied... the details are unimportant.It's not a court case or an argument. Either they felt welcomed or they didn't.
    – Kilisi Mod
    Nov 17 '18 at 19:07
  • Besides, putting screenshots etc. would be against (bypass) the intended 10k rep limit to see certain content and posts (it's there for some reason, so only few users can see to avoid more drama). Not sure if posting it completely would be acceptable @AndrewT.
    – DarkCygnus Mod
    Nov 17 '18 at 19:21
  • @Kilisi well, that's the problem since the welcoming blog post, that anyone can perceived to be bullied and feeling unwelcomed whatever the case.
    – Andrew T.
    Nov 17 '18 at 19:28
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    @DarkCygnus not really, you can anonymize the users to prevent the drama. For this case, allowing only 10k+ users to know the specific issue doesn't look inclusive enough for me...
    – Andrew T.
    Nov 17 '18 at 19:32
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    @AndrewT. it's a personal thing I guess, if it was my first time here and people were doubting my question to my face I'd probably just go elsewhere as well. Having said that, I'm probably not particularly welcoming myself, I don't make much/any effort to be PC, but I do take questions at face value in the main unless it's an obvious troll.
    – Kilisi Mod
    Nov 17 '18 at 19:37
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    @DarkCygnus it's ok to share screenshots of deleted posts if you feel it's helpful. The guidance I've seen is that if (some) regular users can see it, it can be shared -- screenshots of deleted posts get posted from time to time. Nov 18 '18 at 3:03
  • People can vote to undelete...
    – enderland
    Nov 18 '18 at 21:56
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    @enderland That doesn't change the fact that the user felt so frustrated that he deleted it in the first place. Nov 18 '18 at 23:36
  • @RichardU Where are the "repeated calls to do a simple edit"? I see one comment asking for paragraphs, and that's it.
    – David K
    Nov 19 '18 at 13:51
  • @DavidK must have gotten deleted before he deleted his post. Nov 19 '18 at 14:55
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    @DavidK there are no deleted comments on the question. Nov 19 '18 at 20:31

I am confused by the comment:

@EdHeal You know, you can edit as well, instead of complaining

it is in response to:

Please can you use paragraphs

Unless there were other deleted comments I don't see how asking for paragraphs is a complaint. I feel that asking a new user to make some simple edits is something that we should do to help a new user. While it is sometimes easy to add paragraphs it is better for the original author to do so, it can help them organize their thoughts.

The comment exchange:

Please can you tell me that people under you would be able to be honest, if they do not have anamonity?


They will not be including their names ... that's called anamonity. And it's not the reviews I'm worried about . The staff like me and the reviews will be positive for the most part . The problem is my superior falsifying the reviews to his liking . So it's legal to alter documents ?

is a misunderstanding.

the first is asking: if they aren't anonymous would they give an honest evaluation. The second comment defines what it means to be anonymous.

Again unless comments are missing I am not sure how the exchange could have been saved. The question was poorly worded. The question is in a nutshell: I don't trust my boss. I am afraid he will use fake reviews to give be a bad review.

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