I haven't voted, commented, answered, or otherwise participated in your question, but it seems like you're hitting a couple themes that come up from time to time, in terms of questions getting a "bad" response even though the asker is trying their best to be genuine. I hope you don't take any of this personally, and these are just my observations:
- You spend a lot of time explaining background and setting the stage for your situation. It's clear that you're worked up about the issues you're facing, and I can understand why. But it seems like people on Workplace.SE sometimes get turned off by excessive details, because it leaves the question feeling more like storytelling than actually asking a question.
- Once you do get to your actual question, you're essentially asking "Is this normal?" That's a great thing to wonder about, but it's not really an actionable question, which seems to be more on-topic for Workplace.SE. People can say yes, or no, or whatever they want, and nothing will really change. There have occasionally been well-received "is this normal" questions, but most of them don't fare well.
If you browse highly-voted questions with lots of good answers, they tend to follow some slightly different trends:
- There may be context, but generally it's short and direct.
- The actual question tends to be actionable in the sense of, "I want to achieve X, how can I do that?" And the upvoted answers are typically actionable as well: "Do X, and expect Y. And here's why."
- The answers these questions attract tend to be verifiable - if not in the literal, reference-able sense, at least in the sense of aligning with typical workplace experiences.
- Importantly, popular questions will fit in a generic workplace context, versus being dependent on a specific employer or situation. Your question is very much mired in your employer's own quirks. Asking "does title X match what my employer is asking of me?" is really not going to have a broad application. Even if we answer based on the details in your question, that isn't really helpful to anyone else (unless someone in the exact same scenario stumbles upon it). People can't identify with questions that are too situationally-specific.
Ultimately, Stack Exchange sites are question and answer sites, and your question reads more like it's inviting discussion or "thoughts" than a concrete, verifiable, actionable answer. The Q&A format promotes a very mechanical sort of crowd moderation, where people will downvote or vote to close on questions that they don't feel are a good fit, even if they can't directly articulate a solution.
To bring this to a close, you've asked,
Is there any way to improve it without changing the subject and intention?
I think you have to answer that for yourself. What are you looking for, from the Stack Exchange community, in terms of a response to your question?
- Is there an action you need to take, to solve a problem? If so, edit and describe that.
- Are you trying to determine if you're a good designer? Workplace is probably not the best fit, but it does look like you've asked a question on the graphics design SE site.
- If you do feel you have a valid workplace question, sometimes it's helpful to start with the end in mind. If you can visualize what a "good" answer looks like to you, then work backwards and try to phrase your question such that it would elicit that sort of response.
On the other hand, if you really are just looking for "thoughts" or validation on how challenging your situation is, you may not be able to rescue your question after all.