The powers that be actually said that feelings trump grammar.
I don't see this ending well.
I don't envy you having to enforce this.
Of course, I will not allow myself to be forced to submit to compelled language, and I expect an eventual ban, but I will not hold grudges. I sincerely hope they reverse course on this.
The post wasn't flagged (except once to request comment cleanup). I'm guessing that the moderator who handled the comments focused on the many comments (there are currently 47 deleted ones), in response to the flags.
Now that you have brought this answer to moderator attention, I've edited that answer to describe the outcome without ascribing motives. ...
I think there's going to be a lot of confusion and mistakes.
The kind and reasonable thing to do is to comply with whatever pronouns a person wants to use. Unfortunately, there's not enough nuance in an online context for that to work without explicitly specifying the pronouns for the people for whom this is important.
If stackexchange wants to takes their ...
The text you quote is fairly clear to me: "Focus on the content, not the person". Any statement that amounts to "You are X" when X is a negative quality is rarely going to be a good thing to say here. But if you say something like "Doing this would make you X" or "It would be X to proceed without..." instead focuses on ...
Calling someone 'naive' would likely be misconstrued as insulting. This answer to May I use “naive” to mean “inexperienced”? on the English Language Learners stack explains:
Naive (adjective) or naivety (noun) carry more a sense of attitude than of experience.
If you are naive, you tend to:
believe everything you are told
believe that people are good
The purpose of the changes to CoC is to make the SE more welcoming to everyone. That's how SE is explaining the change. Great intent! However, the spirit and the wording of the new CoC and FAQ raise a concern:
A situation where a pronoun misuse may get one in trouble (and being suspected/reported/questioned/tried for whether such misuse was good-faith or ...
Q17: What should I do if I think someone requests me to use a certain
pronoun in bad faith? From @Cesar M(Staff)
If people are requesting things in bad faith, you are welcome to
escalate to mods and mods can contact us CMs when in doubt too.
It is advised to use a custom (Something Else) flag for this. Please
explain, as detailed as possible,...