I was surprised to wake up this morning to a closed as unclear question more because I have no idea why people think its unclear. I got several comments that suggest they know what I was talking about. Yes, I think one of the answers got it wrong but that is only because I don't think the whole of my question was read.
The core of my question is about how to communicate effectively when the other party is being dismissive.
That being said It might have taken too long to get that point across and easily lost people given the votes. I didn't want it to seem like I was singling someone out but I wanted to provide concrete examples. This is still a problem I would like to have fixed and I don't know exactly what is wrong since I read it again and it makes sense to me.
What should I do to make it clearer to others? What should I remove? What do I need to add or change? I don't just want it reopened. I would like to fix it.
I cut out most of what was seen as distractions from the heart of the question. I also reformatted the title a little better. I am going to leave notes for the currents answers in case they think their responses should change.